a few good men

we’ve been sitting with this one, hesitant to rantie, timid to accuse. truth be told, we wondered if we weren’t simply just a bit embittered, turned against a type as a result of our own tornado. so we sat on it, head down (a rarity), hoping for the best, expecting something else. lady in wishful wait.

the year seems to have been a strange one for love; manic months bringing about the break down of an awful lot of relationships (our own just the first of many, most more significant). and in the inevitable reveal of character and conduct that any great fall into (then out of) love but guarantees, how many of these men did indeed turn out to be boys. amateurs. house of cards, a house of cads.

truth is men have always been dogs, animals in their own right (aren’t we all). but something real and transformational seems to have come along with modernity, tectonic shifts in the way we regard relationships. blame media (any sort, social celebrity mass). blame a generation’s disenchantment with religion (what’s left a tundra of spirituality). blame hollywood, blame silicone boobies, bald spots, tiny pricks. blame drugs blame facebook blame porn blame our parents blame tiger, we don’t care. in spite of it let us declare: the decline of the gentleman. dead on arrival.

yes yes not all of them are shitheads. we know some great ones, and we admit one can never so-scientifically categorize. but we’ve also seen an inordinate number of lads behaving lousy of late, and frankly we’re fed up. get a grip, and get a fucking reality check. a woman will walk in the face of insufficiency, unfulfillment, flagrant disrespect. maybe time to man up, non?

while brasandranties was left wondering if perhaps the search for a few good men necessitated the forceful motivation of more than a few good women (just a shit-lot of us to whip these mofos into shape) the good men at the good men project had a better, admittedly less invasive idea. a cultured, content-oriented project // magazine, designed to challenge the cliched constraints of a typical men’s rag. for thoughtful men with a conscience. and if you aren’t into that, well, best of luck to you boy.

there are still a few men who love desperately (jd salinger)

28 thoughts on “a few good men”

  1. Anonymous says:

    ive never met a good one. they are all shitheads given the situation they will turn.. they all do

  2. Anonymous says:

    Yes B&R, YES

  3. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for giving credit to the good men out there too. You know MY good one, and I'm happy to give credit where credit is due. I agree with you especially that women need to NOT settle for the lousy ones.

  4. AOK says:

    So true! And welcome back, we missed you!!!

    This just backs up what I've been saying for the last 6 years that I have been single and dating douches — I refuse to settle for something less than great. And if it takes a lifetime, then that’s how long I’ll wait….But really, where have all the real men gone?!

  5. Anonymous says:

    I like the idea that "a few good men necessitates a few good women". It's not until we stop letting these boys get away with bullshit that they'll stop acting like idiots. Women unite!!!
    Girls need not apply.

  6. K says:

    Love this, love you.

  7. Anonymous says:

    I blame tiny pricks.

  8. Anonymous says:

    The good guys have met all the good girls by their late twenties (at the latest). What you're facing (and some of the commentators above) is the consequences of bad choices and bad timing (and likely a fatal personality flaw or two). Hint of truth or inflammatory comment?

  9. Anonymous says:

    i agree with above comment.
    you hater-girls, are the single miserable ones.

    guess i'm 'lucky'.
    i'd be jealous of what i have.
    because it is pretty awesome.

  10. Anonymous says:

    HAHAHA ANON how about the lamest attempt at hate-comment ever? Good luck losers, guess what I was doing with your boyfriend LAST NIGHT (while you were online st 4am)

  11. Anonymous says:

    wait…what'd I miss? what happened to BIG?

  12. Anonymous says:

    It is possible to be a happy, successful and fabulous gal without a man. Unless you're just one of those women who can't be happy unless she has a man, in which case that's an entirely different set of issues.

  13. AOK says:

    Goodness, so much negativity from some of the ANON's on here. Such an unattractive quality.

  14. Anonymous says:

    Firstly, no one knows if they've experienced bad timing or bad choices until after the fact…

    Secondly, hater girls/fatal personality flaw girls? OR, girls who have expectations/standards and won't take the shit that most girls/women accept these days? Just sayin'…

    I agree with B&R 100%.

  15. Anonymous says:

    Can we all just grow up and stop playing the blame game? Unless one of the parties is a complete asshole then the ending of a relationship is result of an inability to find common ground. AKA you're both to blame to some degree.

    Yes, men can be dogs but women can also be man-eating bitches. Not making accusations, merely stating that street can go both ways and we all know it.

    B&R makes some very valid points, but having said that cut the good guys a bit of slack. We all know they exist, and have probably turned one or two of them down in our time solely because they were 'too nice'.

    Am I right?

  16. Anonymous says:

    No you are not right. Even good guys are dogs.

  17. Anonymous says:

    Well then, thanks for coming out there Positive Polly!

  18. Anonymous says:

    Well, do you think you "good guy" wouldn't cheat on you with a victoria secret model? If the man has a chance and knows he won't get caught,hell cheat.

    Postive Polly

  19. Anonymous says:

    Would a girl not cheat with Brad Pitt if she knew her man wouldn't find out? Humans are not monogamous by nature, very few animals are, end of story.

  20. Anonymous says:

    so what's the point . everyone cheats get used to it?

  21. Anonymous says:

    The point is you need to stop beating a dead horse and worrying about "What if, what if, what if..".

  22. Anonymous says:

    love when a post starts good conversations!

  23. Anonymous says:

    Not everyone's a big cheater cheater. I once had the chance to sleep w a celeb who was married, and I was dating someone. This celeb was my dream man, my Brad Pitt, but I didn't because I thought about one night v.s. a lifetime with someone. Self-control and values. Everyone is different, but I know where I stand.

  24. Anonymous says:

    Thank youuuuu, it doesn't get more obvious then that. Agree with Anon 23 above.

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  26. Anonymous says:

    by definition a 'blogette' presupposes that one blogs–you're not living up to your namesake.

  27. Anonymous says:

    My my, what a lovely couple of Scrooges we have here..

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