it’s like you were my favorite drug

according to the blogeratti, dear riri is set to break the silence about her abuse by chris brown to diane sawyer on friday’s 20/20.

from what we have gathered from the tweets and the twits, rihanna’s most salient point comes as really no surprise; if it can happen to her, it can happen to anyone. how very poignant.

though we earnestly hope she’s got more to offer in the interview, homegirl does make a point. this occurence is so much more common than anyone can even guess. and more dangerous than we can even fathom because it’s rarely disclosed or discussed.

we recognize it so because we have been in her boots ourselves. okay, maybe we’d prefer hers – we’re pretty sure they were lanvin. while we didn’t wake up one day and feel like britney spears, bras and ranties woke up one morning to feel like we were on jerry springer. a man (our man)’s selfish, hideous anger hurt us right down to our bones – life left in pieces for us to literally and figuratively clean away and begin anew. one can build back stronger than before, but no one ever forgets how much something like that can hurt your soul. and it shows.

if you feel discomfort, we don’t blame you. it’s exactly that which is the problem. silence buries the problem under layers of shame, isolation, fear. those who have a voice – those who have people listening – have a responsibility to use it. let’s hope dear riri uses hers well.