we received a recent reader request for a rantie on porn. men and porn, in the case you needed context. seems our reader was growing tired of dating boys that have redtube bookmarked, and she wanted to know brasandranties’ thoughts on the matter. well sit back, relax, and grab a tissue.
we were instantly (viscerally) transported to the plush leather office chair of one of our (ever)unnamed xes (ye not-so innocent subjects), hand on mouse, huffing at the blogette’s perpetual state of silence. before we knew it we’d back-paged a bit and, voila: our man’s most recent masturbatory material. we obviously pressed play.
there we were, found in (how you say) first-person view of a silconed blonde, pontificating to the masses with her very enthusiastic oral talents. while we were initially somewhat horrified at this up close state of virtual // reality, it was actually when we heard the guy speak that things got nasty. the moans, the groans, comments of encouragement. even the dirty talk: we’d heard it all before. quite literally. that morning. from the mouth of our momentary man, uncreative little thing.
most women have already come to accept that porn plays a role in the habits of her partner; dismiss it as just the mechanics of a man. biology of the visually stimulated. if it’s not affecting your own enjoyment, not bugging over it is one’s best bet. but what not enough men talk about is just how habitual a proclivity for porn can be. when watching the professionals bang it out is suddenly a prerequisite for playtime (even worse, the real thing) you’ve got a problem in your hands. and what women aren’t talking about is how man’s (men’s) pornographic tendencies affect us: in the bedroom and broader, perhaps even with regard to sexual identity (definition and demonstration). before you call bullshit, check your brazilian at the door. mmmhmmm. muff said (we just can’t stop).
so just how much of our horizontal selves is authentically our carnal animal, and what distant part of it rings familiar of some xes smutty predilections? how much of our own erotic habits reflect an industry of sex that (to be frank) doesn’t have much to do with us at all? worth a confabulation, non?
Anonymous says:
I personally don't think there's anything wrong with men watching porn. Just as long as they're not addicted and asking to watch it everytime you get it on.
Alex says:
Hmmmnn. Honestly you didn't really say much. Women watch loads of porn too and porn ( even moreso Internet porn ) has allowed for people to open up and let their inhibitions out …. Especially when they start to realise how tame their own desires are compared to what others watch…. So who cares if your fella is crankin it so long as he isn't going off to another woman to satiate his momentary desires???? Know wot I mean???
cheers,
Alex and Yes, I watch porn and Like it….Just not All of it 😉
Anonymous says:
love porn too but I agree with anon #1 as long as the man or woman is not addicted it can be fun to watch with your partner together.
However, if the man/women wont get off unless its in the bg..then its time to speak up. Just like a sex position porn can get tired.
Remember you are the star of the show*
PS B&R is amazing
Anonymous says:
I introduced internet porn into my relationship and it ended up killing me. My man no longer wanted to fuck me unless he was watching porn. It even got to the point where he would be strocking his cock 4x a day watching redtube instead of having sex with me.
I began to feel ugly, unwanted and most of all FAT. But I never dared say anything becuase after all I was the one who shared it with him.
We went from having sex numerous times a day to one. maybe.
So I had a choice break up or deal. I talked to him about it in a non sexual situation and we are back. I don't think men realize that it hurts us until we bring it up.
Now we are back to full fledge fucking numerous times a day and he's porn activites are still there but its back to being all bout moi.
Conclusion: Porn is good in moderation & anything porn stars can do we can do better
Anonymous says:
i am very primal and love anything and everything to do with sex but porns do not reflect us at all..like who the hell starts moaning before the man even touches you? Some porns should acutally be comedies.
Anonymous says:
too bad the men in porn don't look like the women…RON JEREMY is what we have to be excited about? gross
Anonymous says:
its unfortunate that porn does affect the way we feel about our sexuality.
Anonymous says:
Bald boxes, fake tits, sluts making out with eachother, threesomes, partner swapping. BNRs boyfriends porno or the scene on any random night out? This rant is right on..sex has never been more casual, and I agree thats directed by the men (who are directed by porn). So what do women do, its not like they'll give it up?
Anonymous says:
LOL-ya, you delete that shit because you know it's the truth.
Anonymous says:
put a virus on his computer blame it on the porn
Anonymous says:
"so just how much of our horizontal selves is authentically our carnal animal, and what distant part of it rings familiar of some xes smutty predilections? how much of our own erotic habits reflect an industry of sex that (to be frank) doesn't have much to do with us at all? worth a confabulation, non?"
this is the most inspired part of this post. is it true, how much of what we do, sous les sheets, is actually what we or our partner wants, and how much is something we're reenacting based on the perceived pleasures of a porn star.