bras and ranties on love.

forward: for the purpose of this post, i am speaking in generalized observations. please remember, would-be hate mailers: my blog = my opinion. so shut the fuck up.

either something’s in the water, or something major is going down with 30-something guys in toronto.

i was sad to hear this week of two different couples (with 3+ year relationships) deciding to end their relationships. or to be more precise, the guy telling the girl it was over, much to the surprise of the other party. in both instances (as it is in most) the men hadn’t had big enough balls to enlighten the girl as to his doubts. which led to disconnection. which is inevitably a relationship in the shitter, non?

anyways, the boys join the rest of my single guy friends: in their late 20s through late 30s. a huge number of them are single. many of them date women in their very early 20s. one of them dates a girl born in the 90s. oh god.

all of it got me wondering if we may be about to experience the first generation of an extraordinatory amount of people (namely men) choosing not to marry. because they don’t have to. because they don’t want to.

realizing there’s always been playboys who choose not to settle down, social pressures to marry have only recently become relaxed, and only really then in urban settings. but bras and ranties can’t help but wonder if the clooney effect is about to go mainstream. a lifetime is a scary thing for anyone to commit to, and – let’s face it – the wedding day isn’t exactly every little boy’s dream. perhaps we are about to see a majority of men choose to have meaningful, long(ish) term relationships with women, until they run their natural course.

believe it or not, i’m a romantic, deep-down. there’s a part of my soul that longs for true and forever with someone. but really – is this real? can you really change as much as a person changes in a lifetime and remain madly in love? hey don’t freak out – i’m just wondering if perhaps the boys are on to something…

would love to hear your thoughts. comment or

6 thoughts on “bras and ranties on love.”

  1. iamlaura says:

    just wondering, can anyone think of a female equivalent to clooney? perhaps we modern ladies could use a role model.

  2. Anonymous says:

    clooney was once married- in fact almost all were once married and for some reason after the fact don't believe in marraige anymore-the question is why? BUT to answer yours- I haven't a clue. Angelina? Jennifer Aniston?

  3. iamlaura says:

    according to google it's angelina, but her version of love and partnership just seems so…complicated. george seems, at least on the surface, to pull it all off with a suave smile. but maybe this says more about the way the press covers these two celebs than it does about the reality of their lives.

  4. Anonymous says:

    I would say Sandra Bullock before she married Jesse James….she was such a cool bachelorette, and had Ryan Gosling eating out of the palm of her hand!

  5. Anonymous says:

    ‘Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl ‘Will you marry me?’ The girl said: ‘NO!’ And the girl lived happily ever-after and went shopping, dancing, camping, drank martinis, always had a clean house, never had to cook, did whatever the hell she wanted, never argued, didn’t get fat, traveled more, had many lovers, didn’t save money, and had all the hot water to herself. She went to the theatre, never watched sports, never wore friggin’ lacy lingerie that went up her ass, had high self esteem, never cried or yelled, felt and looked fabulous in sweat pants and was pleasant all the time.

  6. Anonymous says:

    my opinion. so if you dont like it, lick balls.

    its a gamble not worth the risk. i mean. if you have kids and it doesnt work out.
    you are pretty much fucked.
    you lose half your shit , sometimes more.

    its not like it used to be.
    commitment is not something that is valued.
    it has a shelf life.

    much like organic, some fucktard has changed the meaning of the word.

    women are smart. much smarter then men. they put your balls in a jar on their bedside table once that ring is attached to their finger, or bun is in the oven.
    not doing what you are faaking told = you lose that paycheck, access to the kids and the house you faaking paid for.

    if you play nice. whats in it for you?
    sex? before marriage … that was a given, sometimes before even leaving the resto.
    um? con-ver-sation? nope.

    seriously? whats the Pro-Line on getting married? most men arent betting on it these days.

    (and that doens't go for everyone. just most women from north america)

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